I hope that my friends and family recognize that after 24 plus years together Natalie and I deserve the rights all married couples enjoy. Natalie and I have made the trek to a law office and done everything we could to get the rights of a married couple, but a court of law could take those away from us, if pressed. I have no family medical leave from my job if Natalie gets sick and I need to take care of her because they do not offer domestic partner benefits. The federal government does give Natalie family medical leave for partners, but stops there. I am not covered under her health insurance as a spouse should be. Nor am I eligible for her pension if something were to happen to her, despite 20 years of taking care of her life while she has been all over the world for the government. These are hard pills to swallow as I age and think about our future as a lesbian couple. Possibly, next year I may be blogging that the federal government put on their big girl pants and started recognizing marriage licenses for all their citizens. I can only hope. And I do hope.
|Commitment Cermony 1992|
Don't get me wrong things have improved, improved by bounds. Natalie left a ROTC scholarship in college partially out of fear of being discovered as a lesbian. Now photos of gay marines are on the Internet charming (some people) with their much deserved homecoming kiss. Polls are in our favor, we are cresting the 50% approval for same sex marriage (http://blog.christianitytoday.com/ctpolitics/2011/03/poll_growing_pu.html). I have hope. Hope that you my friends and family will see my life with Natalie and realize that we do not bring end times with us only the dream that one day, we will be legally married in the United States. Maybe this time next year for my second anniversary I can have the gift of equality.
|Cousin's Wedding Fall 2011|